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Things I've Learned About Marriage Over The Last 22 Years

Yes, I've been married 22 years, not all of the years have been happy, but not all have been hard and bad either.  I just want to pass along some things that I've learned over the 22 years that I have been married, because I thought that others would benefilt from it.  Ive not really ever shared these before, but here goes.

Well, one thing that I learned, is you can't build your marriage on a feeling.  Love isn't just a feeling, but it's an action word, and both partners need to show love toward one another.  It's not always easy, especially when the feeling isn't there, but in a marriage, the feeling isn't always going to be there.  Don't ever go on feelings, because feelings change.  If you build your marriage on this "feeling" of love then it definitely wont last.  To love, you need to be unselfish, and think about the other persons wants and needs over your own.

Another thing I learned is that communication plays a vital role in any relationship, but most importantly in a marriage.  When communication breaks down, for what ever reason, then there are problems.  I can attest to that. Communicate in a loving manner what is bothering you, and also communicate what is good.  No one wants to hear negative things all the time.  They need to be built up also.  

Constant criticism will break the other persons spirit.  It will bring them down.  It will kill them emotionally.  When all someone hears from the other person is negative, then they begin to believe it.  When a person starts to believe the negative, they stop functioning as they normally would, and start acting the way they have begun to believe. Encourage your spouse, and speak positively, and lovingly.  Support them, and they will blossom.

Having a budget that both of you agree to, and sticking to the budget is important.  Financial problems are hard to deal with.  No one wants to be financially unstable.  Borrow as little as possible, and save what you can.

Spending time with each other doing something you both enjoy doing is a must.  Each of you need to carve out some time to spend together, and don't let anything, or anyone mess with that time.  It's for you two to discover each other, and learn more about each other.  Both parties must be committed to this.  

The one I consider most important, putting God at the center of your marriage.  Pray together, and read the Bible together.  Pray for each other.  Encourage each other.

One thing that I realize that I didn't when I was just starting out is, that marriage isn't easy.  It takes work from both partners.  It's not something a person can be lazy at, and expect it all to work out good.  One can't expect the other person to do all the changing, and all of the work.

Forgiveness is one of the main ingredients in any relationship, but more so in a marriage.  Yes, the other person is going to do things that hurt you, but if you can't forgive, then what you have is anger, and bitterness instead of love.  You not only hurt the other person by carrying those feelings around, but you hurt yourself.  Learn to forgive, and move forward in your marriage.  The more you forgive the closer you are, and the better, and happier you are.

These are just some of the things I've learned from my own journey, and I would like to share them with all of you.  May God bless you all.  My love to everyone

One Bible scripture I would like to share with you all would be. 

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Change

This is a year of change in our family.  I am so excited about all of the things that are happening.  My son Michael turned 18 in April, and in a few short days he will be graduating from High School.  This in and of it self is such an accomplishment.  School was not his best subject.  If you get my drift here.  I always had troubles getting him to do his school work.  If it was homework, he would do it at home, no problem, be he wouldn't bring school work home and finish it if he didn't finish it at school.  I'm still trying to teach him to be a self starter at tasks, and things that need to be done, other than playing video games on the computer.

I'm looking forward to Michael finding a job, and getting started on his adult life.  I want him to have a good start, and to be respected by others.  He just took his last and only final today, and he has the rest of his life ahead of him to be the man of God that I know that God is making him to be.  I'm looking forward to seeing where he is in 5 years, maybe even 10.

My oldest son is moved out, and is starting out on a life independent of mom and dad.  He will be moving into his first apartment with his fiance in a few short weeks.  I about a year from now he will be walking down the isle to get married.  It's hard to believe that the son I used to hold in my arms, and rock to sleep every night will be getting married.

I am so proud of him, and what he has accomplished.  He has a wonderful job working at Alaska USA Credit Union.  He is learning the ins and outs of banking, and how to do what a teller at this credit union does.  He still has a lot to learn but has come a long way.  I am so looking forward to seeing what he and his soon to be wife's life will look like in 5 years, maybe even 10.

God has been so good to me and my family.  I am so proud of my boys, and what the Lord has done in their lives, and I am so looking forward to seeing what he will do in the future.  I pray that he will continue to work in each of their lives, and that they will both be open to His leading.  I pray that God will bless both of my sons, and that he would make them men of God, and men after God's own heart, like David was.

Thank you Lord!!!